Its been a bad few days...

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There were a few days this week and last where I was just really frustrated and kind of stressed out. There has been a lot of family drama lately because I've decided to join the church we have been attending and this is not something my sister is thrilled about. We told them at that birthday luncheon we went to a week or so ago, and they were originally really supportive and I was excited about it and shocked.

But since this decision is something my sister does not like, she has been secretly dropping huge bombs of horribleness around my mom since then and i'm only now beginning to find out about it. These acts of awfulness have lead to phone calls of my mom crying her eyes out to me claiming these wild accusations and falsehoods to the point where my husband was having to walk out of the room while I was on the phone because he couldn't stand to hear the lies my sister had told my mom.

I think the most hurtful thing was my sister actually trying to convince my mom that she needed to write me out of the will she's been thinking of drawing up by telling her things like "the church will take it from me and not allow me to have anything she tries to leaves me."

I can handle my sister telling my mom i'm posting things on Facebook and taking them out of context, just to upset her.

For instance, like how I'm excited SCB's mom will be speaking at my baptism. My sister took this fact and reworded it to point out that MY mom is not speaking but HIS mom is and everyone knows it because I posted it all over Facebook just to be hurtful... 


Of course when I explained that only church members could give a mini sermon "talk" at the baptism and that if it wasn't SCB's mom it would be another family member or a friend of mine from the ward, reality set in for a few minutes... and I also took the time to calmly  point out that I was excited because people were willing to volunteer to speak because its normally hard to get people to give a talk at church...  Then i apologized for unknowingly hurting her feelings (considering how she doesn't have a computer, can't access the internet, and doesn't know what facebook is... how could I have purposefully tried to hurt her with that?)... 

But this twisted behavior of hers is just low. Very low... 

The idea that my sister would take time to sit and work out a way to twist my words and the situation for her own selfish gain and purposefully hurt my mother and bring her to tears just so she can possibly be left an old home when she dies is just sick, manipulative and cruel.

Who does that???

(and just for the record, i don't expect anything when my mom passes because i don't expect her to have anything. Despite the fact that she hasn't planned for retirement and besides $50k in the bank will be living 100% on social security in a paid for house, I think she will actually need us to bail her out... not leave us her house... but if i'm wrong and she's okay on her own, she's always said things should be 50-50 and my sister has always countered and added after that 70-30, because i'm older and you love me more mom.)

So it's been a rather rough week or two for me.

I haven't called my sister because that would make it worse... (her just knowing i'm bothered by it will add passion to her efforts and she'll try even harder)...

I can't un-friend her on Facebook either because that's the same as calling her up and asking why anyone would lie and purposefully hurt our mother like that... that and she'd tell my mom instead, causing another fight and bad phone call that I don't have the emotional ability to handle...  so, instead, the hubby blocked her, her fiance, and his brother from seeing my posts.

I've also been trying to only respond to my mother's emotional outburst with kindness and calm reasoning to explain things the best that I can...

Any good ideas for how I should go forward?